D-Groups are a place where any question can be asked. In fact, they are a place where every question should be asked. D-Groups are intended to be a place where you are expected to ask the questions no one else will. They are also a place where you are expected to answer those same questions.
D-Groups are a place of true, genuine friendship, where people will ask you things that are difficult to answer and tell you things you don’t want to hear. They are not easy, but they are invaluable to the Christian that wants to pursue a truly transformed life. Though they are not easy, they might very well produce your deepest, most intimate friendships.
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. Proverbs 17:17 (NLT)
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Proverbs 27:6 (NLT)
Here are some example questions for you to consider, some of which have been taken from the book “The Man in the Mirror” by Patrick Morley:
Opening question:
- What were your high and low points of the past week?
Questions regarding Spiritual life:
- What have you been reading in the Bible the past week?
- Where have you seen God at work this week?
- Describe your prayers (for yourself, others, praise, confession, thanksgiving)
- How is your relationship with Christ changing?
- Do you feel like you are doing what God wants you to do?
- How have you been tempted this week? How did you respond?
- What are you wrestling with in your thought life? (jealousy, anger, fear, etc.)
- Do you have any unconfessed sin in your life?
- How have you impacted your non-Christian friends this week?
Questions regarding home life:
- How is it going with your spouse (attitudes, time, irritations, disappointments,
progress, his/her relationship with Christ)? How have you been praying for him/her? - How is it going with your kids (quantity and quality of time, values and beliefs,
education, spiritual welfare)? How have you been praying for them? - How are your finances doing (debts, saving, stewardship)?
Questions regarding work life:
- How is it going at work (career progress, relationships, temptations, workload,
stress, problems, working too much)?
Other questions:
- How are you doing in your personal high-risk area? (everyone has something)
- Is the visible you and the real you consistent in this relationship? In other words, are you lying to me?
- Do you see any blind spots in my life? Are there any areas of my life that concern you?
